OPPOSITES ATTRACT 💖

Let me first clarify one thing before you start reading, this blog has nothing to do with the "Law of Attraction" in Physics. This is about human relationship and wisely selecting your partner for a better and happy future. 

Selecting the similar other as relationship partner is extremely common, so common that it could be described as a psychological default. Anything that disrupts the harmony of the relationship such as disagreements, attitude, difference in values and preferences are more unlikely to occur. This directly results in happy relationship with lesser avenues for a fight. Most people play better with the similarities rather than trying to impress the other person with attributes which make them unique. Change is always difficult and unlikely, it's easier to select people who are compatible with your needs and goals from the beginning. However, this might also result in lack of exposure to other ideas, values and perspectives.

On the other hand, opposites do attract. When we see people who are complete opposites, inspiring with a different set of goals and values, making a change in the community, we spontaneously fall for them, keeping our disagreements apart and that's instantaneous. However, we require hard work, change and efforts to be put in for a healthy relationship with your opposites. It is a continuous process that requires 100% involvement from the partners in giving feedback assertively, receiving feedback constructively and creating a system for change. The process extensively demands your time to develop new skills, learn about your partner's preferences and identifying common grounds in arguments. It's not that easy, 90% of people settle in for a comforting life with similar partner, the 10% who take efforts to make things work and lead a healthy relationship still have a 90% chance of failure.

People who are similar are for comfort, taking it easy, relaxing, not being challenged and those are good things. But you can't have only that need. Life is an adventure for the most, a challenge that keeps them energized to learn and achieve greater heights, both professional and personal. Similarities are very useful for a comforting life, but getting along with people who aren't like you is really useful, they help us create a better version of you.

Ultimately, it's up to the individual to decide which version of life they would like to pursue, the comforting one or the challenging one. Also make sure you're happy with the version of life you chose.